it's that time of year again.
a-a-aaachooo!
excuse me.
yesterday my allergies showed unexpected.
they've crippled all my big plans.
plans of 'cleaning house'...
the garage.
the closets.
the cupboards.
the windows (ok i'd planned to hire that out).
i already needed more hours in the day.
a set back like this just plain bites.
i'm hanging onto hopes my claritin will kick in soon.
RELATIONSHIPS: I've also done some 'cleaning house' in my relationships over the past few years and even more so recently. I've said "bye bye" to those who gossip, radiate drama and just plain bring me down. I have to tell you, it feels great, I don't miss them a bit! This may sound a little harsh but it's important to be selective about who we give our energy and time to. Life's too short, and our family deserves our best self.
We need to ask ourselves if the people we allow into our lives are helpful, positive and uplifting or are they burdensome, destructive and unsupportive? If they've proven to show a pattern of drama, distrust, and ill feelings toward you...see ya! They're toxic and will only clutter your brain and cause you undo stress.
Sure it's important to forgive them and not hold onto feelings of anger and hurt, but that doesn't mean you have to keep allowing them into your life, draining your energy and self worth.
So while you're doing your spring cleaning this year, don't just evaluate whether that old sweater has gotta go, or if it's finally time to donate those pre-baby jeans, ask yourself:
"Am I In Good Company?"
Yes ma'am, I've been doing the same "cleaning". Most of it has been the relationship type of cleaning. Also cleaning up my priorities too....still working on that. I joined facebook, but try not to even check it. Honestly, even blogging has caused some negative things in my life...many good things too, but definitely some negative. With our new move, I'm hoping to re-evaluate habits..ok, I'm writing a novel here...I guess I just could have shook my head in agreement ;)
ReplyDeleteAMEN. i'm so tired of facebook, i could puke. i haven't looked at it in weeks and was on there for a minute today and had the same thought you did....a colossal waste of time. love your outlook and attitude! :)
ReplyDeleteWe have been through a process similar to your relationship house cleaning. It was painful, but overtly setting boundaries has not destroyed those relationships but made them better. It has made it easier on my marriage.
ReplyDeleteSo many people are laying off of Facebook. How interesting!
I like your spring cleaning and I really need to take the same break from Facbook and the computer in general.
ReplyDeleteAlso, I loved the proper care and feeding of husbands! Soo true!
I am dreading allergy season....but we still have a ways to go before they hit....still 2 feet of snow on the ground!!
ReplyDeleteI like your idea of "Spring Cleaning".....there are quite a few areas in my life that could use some cleaning up!!
Have a wonderful weekend!
Lisa
awesome post, and i love the new bloggy looks! fresh! :)
ReplyDeletehope you feel better...
I love that type of spring cleaning. It is nice to be surrounded by positive people. Hope your allergies are better.
ReplyDeletei've done that sort of cleaning today too. what got into me? a couple of cabinets and such. i must feel better. my head still feels like it might explode when i bend over though.
ReplyDeleteJess,
ReplyDeleteI love the new blog look--and sidebars too! All spiffied up and fresh! And yes, we must guard ourselves and our families from toxic. Hope you feel better soon so you can get to that list. I hope to attack all the books that seem to be taking over my house.
lots of love,
edie
Jessica, thanks for stopping by. I love your post, very well said. WE do have to be careful who we hang out with & the internet can be a huge time waster. I have purposed to back away from it all much more this year & get more done around the house.
ReplyDeleteloved this post...so true. It's the thing that I've enjoyed the most about being in my 30's....I can look at the relationships in my life and the only people that are in my inner circle are people that will still be there 40 years from now....
ReplyDeleteHappy Spring Cleaning!!